What I Can Do

What I Can Do

“What I can do is offer myself, wholehearted and present, to walk with the people I love through the fear and the mess. That’s all any of us can do. That’s what we’re here for.” ~ Shauna...
Love the Patient

Love the Patient

This is a continuation of a small talk I gave at a nurses’s residency training last week. For part one, click here. After letting the nurses know that it was important to us for them to love the parents, I wanted talk about and share examples of is loving the patient. Oh sure, nurses know these things, even people who aren’t nurses can tell you that you are a better nurse if you care about the patients. But I mean really caring about them. And I will share an example of when I saw this in action. When Dylan was in patient for surgery on her spine we noticed that every time she was out of her bed and in our arms her nurse would come and mess with her bedding. She was always turning, fluffing and changing things. Frequently she would comment about the new cute blanket she found to put on her bed and she would make things all nice and neat before she left. After seeing her do all this fussing for a day or two I finally asked her about it. I told her no one messed with Dylan’s bed like she did and inquired as to what she was doing all these time. I was nice of course, just curious! She told me that everyone likes to turn their pillow over to the fresh side and everyone LOVES clean sheets! So this is something that she always does for her patients that can’t do it for themselves. My heart burst. At only 9 months old, this nurse was treating my baby like she was...
Love the Parents

Love the Parents

I volunteered to be on a panel of parents for the Nurse Residency training at our local children’s hospital. It’s a great program, all of the nurses are required to go through an 8 week rotation of all of the different departments so not only do they get familiar with the different areas and can fill-in when needed, but they can also find the area of the hospital that they prefer to work in. On the last day, right before graduation, the instructors have a small group of parents come in, introduce themselves and share some stories about their experiences with nurses. Initially I wasn’t sure what to say but thankfully my husband helped me work through some thoughts and some stories and I think what we put together is worth sharing. It’s general advice to nurses but throughout I include our favorite nurse stories. This will be the first of a couple posts where I share my favorite nurse stories and what we can learn from them. The first thing I asked the nurses to do when it was my turn to talk was to love the parents. I followed with this story. When Dylan was born the Neonatal doctor mention that she most likely had Holoprosencephaly, when we stopped him and asked “what was that word again?” we were told “Oh, it’s just a big word that means lots of things.” (cue gasp from the audience of nurses!) And being the over-whelmed new parents we just accepted that answer. About a week later we got a new nurse in to take care of Dylan in the NICU...