Deciding to Have More Children After Your Special Needs Child

Deciding to Have More Children After Your Special Needs Child

Deciding to have more children is something that weighs very hard on the parents of children with special needs. Can you ever have enough time, will you be able to work with them, can they reach their full potential when you are spread thin? Is it fair to even consider it? Overwhelmingly the answer for people who have continued on to have more children was that they were glad that they had more children. For many reasons. Here are a few: No matter what life brings, your special needs child will never be alone. Not only are we reassured of this as parents but the child knows that everything they do, they will have a sibling beside them to help and encourage them. My children are still young, but I have seen so many examples of protective caring siblings that I can’t wait to see how their relationships will develop. Having a special needs sibling is good for typical children. Many families talk about how their other children are far more patient, quiet and caring for others because of their experience with their special needs sibling. They are often quicker at developing that ability to think outside of their own needs. The extra stimulation is good for children with special needs. Our house is crazy, it’s noisy, there are toys everywhere, kids everywhere. Dylan is always trying to ‘catch’ the other kids, she wants to be where they are and will try as hard as she can to get there. That is motivation that a therapist cannot provide on their own! Logistics work themselves out – One mother asked...
25 things that make special needs parents happy

25 things that make special needs parents happy

1 – Watching friends, cousins, nieces, nephews, siblings and more treat special needs kids awesomely because of the influence your child has had on them. 2 – Finding doctors and therapist that believe in your kids as much as you do. 3 – Realizing that when random strangers tell you how “lucky” you are to have a child strapped in a wheelchair because their kids are running wild through Target they really have good intentions… really. (This applies to other inappropriate random comments… And yes, it really happened to someone I know.) 4 – Watching something that doctors tell you will never happen happen. 5 – Then watching everyone who ever believed in your daughter say “I knew it! I told you so!” 6 – Realizing that it’s okay if you don’t do EVERYthing the therapists say you should be doing, every day. 7 – Watching how much your kids love eachother and having your son ask “Where’s Dylie?” When she’s been in bed for two minutes. 8 – Having your special needs girl completely over-react and be dramatic (just like a little girl should). 9 – Being okay that your three year old still uses a 3 month old’s binki, her teeth are never going to be anything other than perfect (for her) anyway right? 10 – Being able to celebrate the ‘inchstones’. 11 – Having support from random strangers who you now call “family”. 12 – Realizing just how not alone you really are, bloggers, support groups, “friends”. I love my extended family. 13- Finding your dog sleeping right next to your special needs kid’s bed or...
Gifts for Special Needs Children

Gifts for Special Needs Children

What do you buy a special needs child for Christmas? As we are right around the corner from Christmas and smack dab in the middle of gift giving season special needs parents have special considerations when it comes to managing present gifting to their special needs children. And for that matter, grandmas, friends and everyone else. Do you have a special need child to buy for? Here are some of our tips. Don’t worry about “fair”. This is a general rule in our family. Our seven year old daughter’s toys geared toward one-year-olds cost quite a bit less than those toys that are for her 5-7 year old siblings. If a toy that you have in mind for her only cost $10 but you had $20 in mind? Please… don’t. That toy is fine, don’t buy more, there is no need. We promise. We have had seven years of collecting toys for one-year-olds, you can imagine the collection we have going! We love the newest fun toys, but no need to over do it. Don’t know what to get? Ask! Dylan likes toys and dolls that sing and play music. But other children prefer cause and effect, maybe communication tools, sensory items. There are so many cool things on the market, their parents have probably been dreaming of several items and can give you great ideas! They know their children the best. I would much rather have someone ask than get something that won’t be put to good fun here. Consider adding to a savings account? Have extra money to contribute? Ask the parents if they are saving for...