Hey HuffPo Author… we loved what you had to say, why the language? You make it really hard for us to share!
LionHeart Founder Tammy and I were discussing an article from Huffington Post the other day and we absolutely loved what the article said. We loved that it would make approaching people with special needs easier. We loved that it would ease discomfort that people might have talking about a child’s visible disability. One problem? There is language in the title we just aren’t comfortable sharing from the LionHeart FaceBook page.
Why the need for the language? We get it… you want to get your point across (I guess) but we don’t feel there is a need for it. Here is the information and a link to the original article.
How not to be rude when you see a child with a visible disability. The original article is specifically talking about a strawberry birthmark on a child’s face but we think these things apply to all children with disabilities. Here are the author’s tips, along with comments from me.
1. Are you under 7? You get a free pass to ask questions.
Children are naturally curious, and we get that. The best thing about kids asking? A simple answer works. “Her legs don’t work like ours do.” Easy, fast and it’s over. Nice!
2. Are you a friend or acquaintance that know my child and her name?
Just ask! Be gentle though. The author cautions against alarmed questions “What is on your child’s face?!?” probably isn’t the way to go!
3. Know me and my kids but are too nervous to ask?
Easy. Ask a close friend or family member. They will be happy to answer any questions and it’s probably going to be slightly less awkward, for the both of us, if you go this route.
4. Take a look, but stay cool.
Some kids have different facial features or interesting physical quirks. Yep, we would give a second look too. But take a look and move on, no need for staring or pointing. (We see you!)
5. You’re in the club too? Say hi!
I love when we are out with Dylan and a family comes up to say hi and share that they have a family member with special needs. It helps us to remember that we are all in it together. And most of all, we love a success story. Just be cool, not intrusive.
6. Don’t make it weird.
Don’t ask what’s wrong with my child. It’s just not appropriate and like many parents, I don’t find anything at all wrong with her, I think she is perfect… just different. Tell me how cute she is, tell me you love to hear her giggle but don’t make it weird okay?
Feel free to visit the original article here. It’s all great… well almost all.
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